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The influential, I know what I want 2’s

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I don’t know if I would say Emery is in her terrible two’s, shes definitely in her – I know what I want, I can speak, this is my mood and how im feeling stage. It’s completely different from her last year, being one and just learning how to speak. At this stage shes a little person with big thoughts and ideas. Some times she cant explain them too well hence we have those “terrible two’s”. It’s so negative I cringe when ever my family suggests my little hunny bunny could be in that awful category.  I often roll my eyes (as I do so well) and think, just you wait till you have your own children.

Emery is wonderful, funny and chalk full of personality but lately she’s been (lets face it every parent reaches this point) less than amusing. I’ll be the first one to say I dont have patience, but the day I had Emery suddenly that changed. For her sake at least. I’ve been calm, cool and collected as I’ve spent  24/7 for the last 26 months with her. This past month she’s tested my new found patience to the max. It’s been, “you’re mean mom!”,taking her frustration out on toys , myself and anything else she doesn’t want to be around. I can’t help but think these actions may be influenced by other kids shes around briefly and things she hears people say. Makes me want to raise her and the baby in a cave away from all the  nonsense. All this while being 5 1/2 months pregnant. It’s seeming impossible to keep cool  while I have a kicking child in my arms or her wanting to run off, or often worse for me when she doesn’t want to stand up when I put her down and my back starts hurting.
All of this on top of no more naps. This child of mine has ceased and dismissed all ideas of a nap. That is at any normal hour, she often will ask for one around 5 o’clock. Not likely, then she will be up for all hours of the night.

If I wasn’t worn down by the end of the day before, I am now! Even though this is her new self expressing her emotions I can’t be with out her for more than an hour, I start to miss her. I guess she’s grown on me, bad moods and all. I just have to talk her through it all and tell her its okay to be mad but not alright to throw toys. Or often times let her know mommy is mad and give her a reason. My new saying for her has been, “calm down” & “relax”. Both words I need applied to myself. Preferably on a beach somewhere.

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Understanding everyone is different

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Emery has lots of dolls, she has one doll she got for her first Easter. From the very begining the doll wasn’t a big hit with the extended family. The doll has fluffed wild red hair, at the time it was about the same size as my daughter, and had a silly bunny outfit.

A year later that dolls hand fell off. I didn’t want to throw away a whole doll  just because her hand was gone. I had grown to love that doll even more because she wasn’t as “pretty” as the other typical baby dolls. I got her baby doll and sowed up her arm, I could have super glued her hand back to her arm onto the fabric but I didn’t have any super glue handy and her arm had already been off for awhile. She needed a quick fix so she could be loved again.

I decided this would be a good thing for her to have, a doll with a missing body part to show her we aren’t all made the same. Even though this doll had a hand to begin with sometimes other people are born with out limbs and things can always happen to us and we may lose them.
This isn’t her first experience with some one who’s “different”. Her uncle Richard has cerebral palsy, he’s loud and makes inaudible noises because he can’t speak. He pokes and grabs, so at an early age I had to explain to her to be careful around him. Later in life I’ll have to go in-depth but for now she know’s that’s her uncle, she loves him and he doesn’t mean to poke her.
While we enjoyed playing with her baby girl another misfortune happened. Suddenly her doll lost her other hand, and mommy had to do emergency surgery to stop the stuffing from coming out. In no time she was good as new! A different new, but she was loved just the same, as if she had arms. Emery doesn’t see anything different about her baby. If I ask her where her hands are she says, “there gone”. If I ask where her arms are she doesn’t question it, she points to her two stubs. Emery dances, plays and sleeps with her on occasion.
It gave me the idea, I want to start making dolls that are missing limbs. Not in a gothic kind of way but for children who are born like this or for other children to understand there’s nothing wrong or scary about it. It may be different but different isn’t bad.

Pregnancy symptoms

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Not every women whose pregnant gets sick, I on the other had am one of those unlucky females who gets every symptom out there. Pregnancy brings along things people usually don’t talk about. Either they themselves didn’t experience the crazy symptoms so they don’t know anything about it. My mom had six kids other than myself and I can’t remember her having a hard time with any of them during her pregnancies. Shes a trooper anyways and wouldn’t let it stop her from cleaning but I can’t help to think, how did I get so lucky to experience every symptom in the book!

The only other person I’ve seen have a hard time was my step mom. My brother thought she was going to die, I was much older about to enter High School but even I thought some thing was really wrong with her. She looked miserable and wasnt able to hold her saliva. She had a spit bucket she

I feel bad I’ve let several Friday’s past with out a new blog posting. I struggle getting anything done, this morning I decided to sit down and type it all out while my little one sleeps. So let me explain for those who haven’t been pregnant, who don’t get any symptoms or those who just don’t know about the often forgotten wonderful world of symptoms (play scary music).

These are the symptoms that I’m going through right now. While I love to be pregnant and have my belly grow it (for me) comes with a lot of struggle. This blog might be TMI but its reality! So some of you might laugh while others will be disgusted.

Morning sickness/all day sickness – This year I’m taking a medication so I don’t have to struggle with this from morning to-night. If I don’t take it right away … here comes mama running to the toilet! Everything and anything will set me off, including my own breath or taste in my mouth. If I don’t take my medicine right away I’ll have to throw up after I brush my teeth. Seeing anything nasty or smelling anything (especially if I don’t take my medicine)  will set me off! Not to mention the side effect of my medication is Dizziness & headaches. The headaches luckily don’t come after taking it right away like it use to. Not to mention, and I really should or im doing this blog a disservice – throwing up so hard you piss your pants and possibly nearly shit them. I know I’m not the only one this happens to! I have a weak bladder but It really sucks with waters coming out of both ends.  Life is rough right now.

Headache – I get headaches often I don’t think there all due to my medication because I get them at night or after throwing up hard. It’s at the base of my head and kills me!

* Backache – Along with my usual backache I have it more often with bigger breast by the day.

* Hair falling out – I swear taking prenatal vitamins doesn’t help my hair grow any faster like they say it will; or maybe it does for some women, just not me. My hair is constantly falling out. After birth it continues to fall out even more. I don’t know how im not bald.

Not being able to eat what you want – & by this I mean personally there are things I don’t even want to see while I’m pregnant. Sour cream – just saying it and thinking how it looks, BARF! & Ranch – I just gets my mouth sour, its think and creamy. I don’t know but there two DON’TS for me right now!
And there’s the food I know I like but don’t even feel like eating, and if I do it’s a struggle to finish any meal.

Worst eye sight – I already have crappy eye sight, not as bad as some but it’s not what it use to be. In the past few years in gotten worst and while being pregnant is possible for it to become worst. I think im going through that right now. If it’s not in front of my face, I don’t know what your talking about.

* Counting the days till my next crap – As one article I recently read said something to the effect, “a good crap could seem like a long a go memory”.   You don’t want to know what I’ve been through with this! I’ve scared my family with pictures (yes I took a picture of my poop to prove I wasnt lieing) on how HUGE this thing was.

* Growing breast – Being Itchy all over is a symptom, I think it looks like some kind of rash. Luckily I don’t have that but my growing breast itch so bad!! I’m going to have to head to a store soon and buy bigger bras. Right away my old ones felt uncomfortable and I switched to sports bras but sadly im growing out of them. I just want comfort!

Growing feet – Before Emery I was a size 7 1/2 after I became a size 9!! I PRAY my feet dont grow anymore! With Emery I worked until my maternity leave and my shoes became such a problem. One day I took my strapped sandles in the car & when I got close to work I put them on, I mean …. I tried to put them on. They didn’t fit at all!!! Thank god I had flip flops in the car too and luckily my manager let it slide for a day. I wish I had the picture to show, it looked like I was trying to fit my fat foot in a little kids shoe. Needless to say after this child, Mama is buying herself shoes!

* Fatigue – Constantly being tired and drained.

For now that’s all of whats going on with me, as if that wasnt enough. And that’s all just with this one! Emery had a little bit different things … Bleeding gums and throwing up for no reason. It’s going through all of this keeping up with house work and a toddler but its gotta be done! Being pregnant can be no picnic but Its still an amazing journey and all worth it at the end.

The Official start to Summer.

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Summer officially kicked off June 20th this year, for me it starts in the beginning of  June when the weather in Central California gets in the high double digits and children get out of school.
While waiting for the Dr. to call Emery into the room I picked up Parent , It’s a free magazine with good information on safety, toys and fun things for children to do that live in the area. One article the got my attention about Summer safety, It’s under the “Even Faster Facts” (4). It talks about hot car seats in the summer and how the metal buckles can burn little ones. Soon enough we all experience this! They had a great tip that I plan on using right away! The suggested covering the car seat with a towel or sheet, or even to buy a reflective car seat cover that will keep the seat cooler. I already looked online and found a cheap reflective car seat cover from Babyhaven.com. It’s a little space looking but worth it I think! Just the other day Emery was saying the seat was hot for her. I just apologized and wrapped her dress around the buckle & tried to have the seat flap touch her legs instead of the metal. That’s a 2 year expressing herself, I thought about the other children that couldn’t speak yet and burn themselves and the new baby on the way who will be 5 months when it turns summer next year.

One more car tip I learned the hard way last year, DO NOT throw your keys over the seat and close your door. Let me explain as I bow my head in complete shame, last year when it was just me and my daughter I would have the routine of putting her in her car seat then throwing my car keys over the seat so they would land on the passenger seat. Then go around the truck sit down pick up the keys and drive off. It was just one less thing to hold on too (& as mothers we all know how much crap we have to bring everywhere we go!). Well one summer day I did what I had been doing for months except on this day Emery had grabbed my keys and locked the doors with automatic button. I didn’t hear the doors lock but I grabbed them out of her hands and threw them over the seat. Right when I slammed her door shut I realized what had happened. I could have DIED, just thinking about it brings tears to my eyes. It’s something I don’t talk about and don’t like my family bringing up but I feel its one of this horrible mistakes a parent makes and another person may learn from. At that moment I knew I had no spares, no cell phone (it too was in the front seat) the house was locked, my husband was over seas thousands of miles away, my sister who was staying with me was out-of-town. Again, I could have DIED, there was my 1 yr old in a locked hot car waiting for me to turn on the a.c. full blast. To make a long story short the cops had to come and break the front driver window. Just that alone scared the crap out of me, she was already sitting forward and I was terrified the glass could get her eyes. After I got her out of the car after 20 min (I think) she was completely fine and I cried like a baby as a held her in the house with the a.c and fan blowing in her face. It was the worst thing ever, nothing could top that, not even my husband going crazy at me over the whole thing. Thank god Emery was fine just super red but it was one of those things I wont let happen again!!
Summer poses lots of threats from – burning car seat buckles, dehydration, heat exhaustion,  sun burns, pool safety (drains in pools and hot tubs another quick tip in the article), drowning (kids can drown in an inch of water so watch out!) … the list could really go on. Make sure to have them use sun screen, drink plenty of water & I always wet the top of Emery’s head. Honestly I’m not too sure what it does besides feeling cooler because the sun is beating down on it but its something my mom would make me do as a kid.

Emery’s 2nd Birthday

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You may or may not have noticed I didn’t post friday. I’ve been on a complete over load! My husband and I have been planning our daughters birthday for the past 3 months (crazy I know) and now with my pregnancy I’ve been sick and sluggish. Friday was the day before her big birthday party and everything was getting done. This my husbands first birthday with us. Last year we gave Emery a birthday a month in advance before he was deployed so he could share the day with us. Last year on her actual birthday party my sister and her boyfriend helped me decorate and plan everything for her, they were such a huge help! It was my first time planning a kid’s birthday party so I kept it pretty simple but I think it turned out good.

This yeah we researched Yo Gabba Gabba birthday items, gifts, decorations and drinks online for months and Friday was the day to get everything started so any chance I felt half way decent I got up to help clean up the house. I would put something away and my little shadow would be right there to make a mess again. I had to just lock her room for a few days to insure the house and her room would stay clean.

The biggest thing we wanted to do was make our daughters birthday cake this year. We decided to try to make fondant and have her cake be Toodee from the Nick Jr. show Yo Gabba Gabba the theme of her party. The color was perfect but it was still sticky that my husband had to keep adding sugar and by the end of it all he wasnt able to roll it out. He didn’t get to bed till 5am that night trying to work with the fondant. We decided just to frost the cake with the frosting we had and surprisingly everyone loved it! If I knew we were going that route I would have bought confetti cake. That was the biggest hiccup we had.

I decorated her gifts in Brobee and Muno faces and made Dazzleberry Lemonade for the kids with wacky straws. We all listened to Yo Gabba Gabba cd’s, it was a big hit with the kids. The kept wanting to see the T.V. thinking the show was on. I also made her a head ban and a pink tutu before she changed into her swim suit.

Everything else was a huge hit! Lots of people came from all over California to celebrate Emery’s day with her. She had a blast! Em was in her element when everyone sang “Happy Birthday” to her and she blew out the candles. Couldn’t have asked for more 🙂
After it was all over me and my husband felt a huge weight off our shoulder and were able to relax.

 

 

Reading to baby

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Dr.s say its good to read to babies, it helps them pick up the language and creates a bond. This next section explains it all, it’s taken from Kidshealth.org

Reading aloud:

  • teaches a baby about communication
  • introduces concepts such as stories, numbers, letters, colors, and shapes in a fun way
  • builds listening, memory, and vocabulary skills
  • gives babies information about the world around them

Believe it or not, by the time babies reach their first birthday they will have learned all the sounds needed to speak their native language. The more stories you read aloud, the more words your child will be exposed to and the better he or she will be able to talk. Hearing words helps to build a rich network of words in a baby’s brain. Kids whose parents frequently talk/read to them know more words by age 2 than children who have not been read to. And kids who are read to during their early years are more likely to learn to read at the right time.

When reading, your child hears you using many different emotions and expressive sounds, which fosters social and emotional development. Reading also invites your baby to look, point, touch, and answer questions — all of which promote social development and thinking skills. And your baby improves language skills by imitating sounds, recognizing pictures, and learning words.

I’ve been reading to Emery since she was a little baby. We use to go to Borders for books, we would come back with 3 or 4 new ones. Mostly I get her thick cardboard books so she can play with them and turn the pages without them bending and ripping. Her books aren’t all in the best condition but I’m glad she enjoys them. In addition to reading I’m always talking to her, I don’t think I have ever spoke this much in my life! I’m constantly speaking to her about where we are going, colors, songs when we go on walks anything and everything. I think its really payed off, she knows a lot of words and picks up things I don’t even realize that I do!  Sometimes I think she isn’t learning something finally it will sink in and she starts saying it.

Right now her favorite book is, “Who Says Moo?”   It’s a dollar book we picked up on one of our Target trips. She reads along or by herself. She says, “You say moo? No. No say moo!” It’s so cute to me that shes listening and comprehends. I express myself as I’m reading to her with little voices or just a way to make it fun. Her wanting to read along to the books confirms I’m on the right path reading to her and buying all these books.  Shes really interested in the characters names and while we read I like to ask her what the colors are.

One of her other favorite books has pictures, colors, shapes, opposites, the alphabet and animals. She goes through the whole book asking me what each thing is and telling me all the ones she knows. She carries that big book around with her like a baby doll. I love that she loves books and wants me to read them to her. Reading is something I wish I liked to do in my spare time and I’m hoping making it fun for Emery and being interested in it for her will have her wanting to read when shes older.

In her room theres a corner dedicated to laying down and reading books. We have lots of pillows there and a few bird pillows that I made her. She grabs a book, scoots herself into the corner and pats the ground for me to sit next to her. As I lay down all nestled between her, her toy box & pillows I begin to read the books she has picked out. I usually can finish one short book before she wants to change the page or takes off for more books or toys. Its best to just continue reading, even if you dont think they’re paying attention. They hear the words and it expands their vocabulary.

IT’S OFFICIAL! WE’RE HAVING A BABY!!

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Yes, you read this title correctly! Miss Emery Ava is going to be a big sister!
On Mothers Day I took a test, thinking the home pregnancy test was negative again I left it on the bathroom counter. Victor woke up went to the bathroom in my room (which is a rarity) and ran out all happy, “Did you see this?!” I was on the phone with my mom wishing her a happy mothers day when he kept saying it was positive! I said, “hold on mom let me call you back”. The paper said the second line maybe lighter than the first … well this time around it was true!
Confirmed it today with the Naval Hospital at 3:30 pm I am pregnant . Unsure yet how far along, roughly 3-5 weeks and a due date in late January.
Emery is loving the idea of having a baby in the house.